Mother

 

To day is Mother's day. But for her,my life's  18515 days were'  beta '  day. 

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Mother

She was born into rich family , having  wholesale  grain business at Dal bazar, Gwalior,M.P. Her childhood was spent in  her in  large palatial home , having 40+ rooms ,multiple terraces, balconies and staircases .The ground floor was used commercially for business .During vacation,this was  our one city  itinerary ,  spending nonstop masti time with dozen plus  cousins ,being adored by mamas and mammys .  The   kitchen of the home  was serving 60 + persons per meal. Freshly prepared Thandai in the morning with basi  roti and niboo achar are still undeleted     memories of my taste buds.  She was the youngest,with five brothers and two sisters preceding.

Her matrimony to a mithaiwala family  from  Badoda    displaced her ~ 1000  km to  West ward. Her new home was having less than 800 sqx3 floors. 

 

  How she must have copped with such a sudden change in her life is  a big enigma to me. She  must have made  many pillows wet during her early  days ,coping with big  family speaking mix of Hindi and Gujarati and having different  food taste,and different subtext of family norms. 

Destiny was throwing  more and more  challenges to her. She was seeing  the   time when her  husband's family  business was  crumbling and the stage was set in a extended family, to enact the repeat telecast of MAHA story of BHARAT. .

Through all these turbulence,she succefully kept the family tree blossoming - three sons and a daughter.

Tears roll through my eyes when I visualise and remember  her bone breaking work schedule in the tiny kitchen,up and downs on  staircases,late hours and long working day. 

She was the link  ,keeping the family  safe,sane and strong. 

Her transition from bahu to mother in law  was the mixed journey . She was  baby and nurturer for the next generation . 

Her relationship with her husband was non- template driven .  She was devoted for her duties but fiercely  vocal for any personal  infringement. 

She did not know what is birthday or anniversary celebration . Occasional movie or visiting the religious place were he recreational escapades. 

With advancing age,in her  fifties and sixties,her bones started taking calls having severe  ,creepling both knee osteoarthritis.She resisted  surgery for long,but eventually agreeing and getting  few years of pain  relief. 

At age of 74 non cooperative right hip 

 decided her  final journey . 

Dear Mother,

Please accept our gratitude and bless us with your love from where ever you are ❤️.

# Mother' s Day. 2024